After about three hours at the doctor's office on Thursday, we made a game plan.
Initially, we thought that we would go the IUI route, because we were under the impression that our insurance covered 6 rounds of the procedure. They do in fact cover the actual procedure; but do not cover the meds, monitoring, etc . . . which would cost us over 3k per cycle. Ahhh, never underestimate the fine print!
So at 3k per cycle - with very little probability (due to my condition), we are going the IVF route. In a way, we had to pick how we are going to gamble! 3k a pop (with a low probabilty) for several rounds VS. the cost of IVF (with a higher probability) for up to a year's worth of embryo transfers. We'll pick the latter.
**I learned something new. With IVF, you create a batch of good embryos and then freeze them. Each time you attempt implantation, is called a "transfer". I was always under the impression that each transfer was around 10k, and maybe it is in some places . . . I don't know, but at FCLV we get unlimited transfers for a year or until it results in a pregnancy with a live birth (within the year).
So, there you go. If we want a family, this is our route.
My (Honest) Feelings. . .
- I am thankful for modern medicine. We at least have an option to have a family, whereas, we probably would not have had one a few decades ago.
(I'm not dismissing adoption as being a family unit. I'm strictly referring to having a biological family)
- Even though my dad is an REI of a physician, I feel like I personally only know of 5 others (maybe!), who are in our age group and have had to do IVF. It's kind of isolating (I've used this word a lot - but it fits the circumstances).
- There are some feelings of, "Why do we have to pay to have a family, when others do not?" Don't get me started on the people who are irresponsible. It doesn't seem fair; but then again, life isn't fair for anyone. . .
- There is a level of guilt attached with the fact that, I am the factor. I need to remind myself that we are in it together. Steven has been nothing but supportive. The guy deserves more credit than I give him. I am beyond grateful for him!
-Okay. . . this part is funny! Steven has this issue with how children are created/conceived. He never wanted to tell anyone that we were trying because he didn't want for people to know what that entailed. Well, it kind of all came out when we were trying forever and nothing . . . and then my surgery, etc. So, at least our kids will be conceived in a lab . . . bam! Sterile, purely scientific. Perfect for my science-teacher-of-a-husband! Ha!
**Disclosure - These may offend some of you, or you may perceive me as ungrateful. These are my honest feelings about the matter and this being my personal blog; I am posting my thoughts.**
After some budgeting and saving, we'll start in a few months!